What Changed Everything.

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Forgiveness is commanded. But staying in a harmful relationship isn't. The Bible models both grace AND boundaries — Jesus himself walked away from people.

Titus 3 — The before-and-after portrait that explains why kindness isn't optional

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Key Takeaways

Paul delivers one of his clearest gospel summaries ever: God didn't save people because they cleaned up first — he saved them while they were still enslaved, bitter, and hateful.

Before anyone gets comfortable in their new identity, Paul forces a look in the rearview mirror at who they used to be — and it's not flattering.
The countercultural move isn't louder arguments or sharper takedowns — it's genuine courtesy toward every single person, including the ones you disagree with.
Some debates generate heat but zero light, and Paul draws a hard line: two warnings for a divisive person, then boundaries.
The chapter's closing travel logistics prove that real theology isn't abstract — it looks like making sure the people around you don't go without.

📢 Chapter 3 — What Changed Everything 🔄

is closing out his letter to , who's been doing the hard work of organizing across the island of . And in this final chapter, Paul does something remarkable — he zooms out from the specific instructions and gives Titus the WHY behind all of it. Why live differently? Why be kind to people who don't deserve it? Because you used to be the person who didn't deserve it. And someone was kind to you anyway.

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Faith Shame Growth Identity Community Self-Worth Forgiveness

Questions about this Chapter

history

What Is Titus About?

application

What Does the Bible Say About Toxic Relationships?

theology

What's the Difference Between Grace and Mercy?

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Reflect

Paul reminds Titus that 'we ourselves were once foolish and disobedient.' How does remembering your own past change how you treat people who are still figuring things out?

Paul asks Philemon to receive Onesimus 'no longer as a slave, but as a brother.' Is there someone in your life you need to see differently — not by their past, but by who they're becoming?

What Changed Everything.

Key Takeaways

📢 Chapter 3 — What Changed Everything 🔄

Inside this Chapter

Questions about this Chapter

What Is Titus About?

What Does the Bible Say About Toxic Relationships?

What's the Difference Between Grace and Mercy?

My Notes

How to Show Up in the World 🌍

The Before-and-After Nobody Expected ✨

What to Build and What to Avoid 🔨

The Personal Touch 🤝